The Housekeeper and the Professor: Book Review

 

Published 6 April 2005

I read newly released books; however, I do like to dig around for hidden gems from prior years, even prior decades. I found this novel, The Housekeeper and the Professor by Yoko Ogawa probably while searching for books about late life. 

The novel features a quartet of characters: obviously, there is a professor. He is a retired mathematician who requires care because of age-related frailty. His sister hires a woman to come cook and clean for him in addition to being a companion.  She has a school-aged child whom she brings with her.  The sister is largely out of sight for most of the novel, so it's really the trio who are in the spotlight. 

Over the course of the book, the mathematician warms up to the housekeeper and the son by talking in an animated matter about math. The housekeeper has some innate ability to understand some of the more philosophical aspects of mathematics.  The boy is interested in baseball generally.  The mother has a better understanding of baseball statistics.  

It is a heartwarming book about how strangers can form meaningful bonds under peculiar circumstances. 

Related: 

Books on Aging. 

Going to PT -- Again: Rotator Cuff This Time

 

I spent March going to PT

While I was working for Newman University in Kansas, the VP of Student Affairs observed that her parents were aging under different models: "My mom is rusting out, and my dad is wearing out."  I have long expected that I am on the "wearing out" trajectory.  And so here I am at age 64 with a torn rotator cuff on my right side. 

I have already experienced problems with my right shoulder / arm.  While living in Indiana, I saw an physical therapist for an AC joint impingement and another one for a pinched ulna nerve.  In West Virginia, I saw a physical therapist for a torn piriformis, but that is an issue with my hip (but also on the right side).  Now I am visiting a physical therapist here in Ephraim for a torn rotator cuff. 

I knew something was wrong, but I have been busy supporting my mother, which meant that I was traveling to Utah County (90 miles each way) two or three times a week while working two part jobs and doing volunteer work. (My mother was widowed in January. In February, she fell and broke her left arm in three places. She needed help because of being in a cast.) 

I was going to seek help for myself in May after I filed grades for the semester (I teach a class on research paper writing for Snow College); however, I got to the point where I did not want to use my right arm (my dominant side). 

I was switching to using my ungraceful and weaker left arm, because with my right arm, I could not hang up clothes, could not reach for a bar of soap in the bathtub, and couldn't carry anything over a pound with my right hand.  So I caved and got treatment plan after the  diagnosis, which included movement tests and images: first an x-ray then a sonogram. 

How did I tear my rotator cuff? 

The Other 17%: Not All Elders Are Grandparents

 

Image by Tony Alter
via Creative Commons

My children made statements in early 2026 leading me to believe that they are choosing to be child free. Now, this is their decision. Having a child is a huge responsibility, so they need to really want to accept all the roles and responsibilities that come with being a parent. 

I would be lying, however, if I did not admit to the need to "move the furniture around in my head." In other words, the future I have been imaging for myself just radically shifted.  True, I only have two children, but I thought that maybe at least one of them would have one child. Instead, I am going to be a grandparent to cats now and possibly dogs once they can afford a home with a yard.

Did I traumatize them with inadequate parenting to the point that they are disillusioned with the relationship?  Ouch.  My heart is full of cement with the thought that my poor choices may have influenced their decision to remain child free.   

I decided to look at some data to see how many older adults in the US are grandparents, and Pew Research indicates that 83% of those 65+ in the US are grandparents.  That makes me part of the 17% that never hold that role.  

The Secret Scripture: Book Review

 

Published 2 April 2008

I have not read very many books set in Ireland, so when I found a review of  The Secret Scripture by Sebastian Barry on Goodreads, I decided to reach back to a book published in 2008. It's notable that this book was shortlisted for the Booker Prize. I was also interested in a protagonist, who was a centenarian, Roseanne (Rose) Clear McNulty, reviewing events from the first quarter of her life. 

The Correspondent: Book Review

 

Published 29 April 2025

Oh, I enjoyed this book. The novel features a woman in her seventies named Sybil Stone Van Antwerp. However, the genre is epistolary, meaning that we read a series of letters that Sybil and a handful of friends, family members, and at times strangers write to each other. Sybil is an avid reader, and some of her correspondents are famous authors, which makes for some fun cameos of sorts. (This is all fiction, however.)  

For me, the more engaging exchanges take place between Sybil and close friends and family members.  Having more than one person comment on past events gives us more than one point of view, and much of the novel's conflicts have to do with these clashes of perception.

Goodbye to Gary, My Mom's Husband

 

Gary M. Lloyd and Donna W. Lloyd
Wedding Reception November 2, 1989

Earlier this month, my mother's husband of thirty-six years was tested positive for influenza. He was already unsteady on his feet due to his normal pressure hydrocephalus. He ended up falling sometime during the first week of January 2026 and was diagnosed with a bi-lateral brain bleed on January 7, 2026.  A week later, he passed peacefully with family at his bedside. A week after that, the family celebrated his life with a viewing and funeral at Berg Mortuary in Provo, Utah prior to an internment in Lehi, Utah. Gary was 91 years old. 

I will remember him for being friendly, diplomatic, dependable, and devout.  He was a great partner to my mother for decades.  

I am providing a copy of his obituary here since it will be behind a firewall at some point: 

2026 WOTY: Listen

 

Photo by Catherine Singleton
via Creative Commons

Instead of making a New Year's Resolution, I adopt a Word of the Year.  If you have not heard of this concept, you can read this post by Jess at her blog Cultivate & Navigate. 

Basically, selecting a Word of the Year (WOTY) helps people to avoid failing in the ways the New Year's Resolutions often end up. Instead of focusing on a specific behavior, the WOTY (aka focus word) can take on different shapes and meanings over twelve months. It's an act of meditation that encourages changes in thoughts, words, and behavior.  What that looks like specifically can transform from day to day.  

I like that better. When I selected a New Year's Resolution, I often gave up four to six weeks into the year. Over the last nine years, I persist through the entire year thinking about my focus word. 

I usually pick something that will stretch me. I may not always incorporate the focus word into my character completely, but I usually learn a lot about myself and adopt some strategies for self-improvement along with self-awareness. 

Happy 14th Blogoversary

 

Image by Scott McLoud
via Creative Commons

Ah, the earth has made another trip around the sun, and this blog has accrued another anniversary, or blogoversary, if you will. 

This post will be number 510.  If my math is correct, this blog has posted on average three times each month (with some wild variation).  My goal is to post at least twice a month. 

Even though people have turned more towards social media posts that have images and posts that are shorter (I'm looking at you, Instagram), this blog still receives about 300 hits a day on days that I do not promote any content. 

Views for this blog
between Jan 2012 to Jan 2026

According to Blogger's statistics, these are the twelve posts that garnished the most views during 2025. Of course, there are a lot of evergreen posts on the posts most viewed during 2025 from all available posts. However, one post (More Community Building) did break through into this year's most viewed posts. 

Without further ado, here are the Top 12 Most Viewed Posts during 2025: 

1. Movies about Love and Sex for People 50 Plus. ( Posted 13 April 2013).  Link

2. More Community Building (Posted 31 March 2025). Link