Best of Boomer Blogs #311

Photo by Domen Jakus. 

I am pleased to announce that I am hosting my first blog carnival. This refers to a digest of sorts. Every eight weeks, I take a turn hosting links and overviews to seven other blogs, authored by other Boomers. This gives you a chance to see what some of my peers are discussing.

RuffLife

On The Survive and Thrive Boomer Guide, Rita R. Robison, consumer journalist, writes about new, voluntary labeling for alcohol, which took the Treasury Department 10 years to adopt. It’s unfortunate that the labeling isn’t mandatory because consumers need to know how many calories are in the alcohol they’re drinking and, in addition, what the alcohol content is. 

Sean McGrath

SoBabyBoomer remembers that half a century ago, the birth-control pill offered women the ability to switch off ovulation, to separate sex from reproduction. It played a part, as the ‘60s got under way, in propelling a host of profound changes, cultural as well as reproductive. This post also discusses new research on "female Viagra" drugs and the more psychological nature of female desire. 

Life with Father: Ship Shaped

Dad and his girls, circa 1974. 

My childhood was influenced in part by my father's service in the U.S. Navy.  I was born state side while my dad was serving active duty in Japan. I have a telegram in my baby book that was sent to him, announcing my birth.

A short time after his return, I spent a year as an infant living in housing with my parents on base in Pearl Harbor. We then lived off base in the Bay Area of Northern California. We lived for a time in Monterrey and then Pacifica, cities close to the navy base.

During the middle of my kindergarten year, our family moved to Cypress, California. My dad had recently started working full time as a civilian in the oil industry, but he was still in the navy reserve.  He served through the base in Long Beach--one weekend per month and two weeks per year.

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This is part of a Generation Fabulous blog hop.
The thumbnails below will expire after a couple of weeks,
so here are a few of my favorites from this set:

Grown and Flown shares Dad's Sayings

A Faded Ginger realizes Now I Get It

Fur Files' dad is a Special Kind of Crazy

HuffPost50 selected 19 photos from the blog hop for a slideshow.
(I'm slide #13.)

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Military culture for Dad didn't stay sequestered to his ship. We felt a little influence at home.  He taught us how to make our beds using military standards.  We learned to iron clothing so they looked as crisp as his uniforms. He had a nautical barometer and matching nautical clocks in the house. The latter rang out time marking  military shifts. "Six bells, and all's well!"

Robert C. Peck's Tasks for Older Adults

Photo by Wunkai. 

Some people age without growing up.

Stage theory can help, but the extension of the average life span to about 50 years old to now about 80 years old has rendered older theories incomplete.

Erik Erikson's stage theory a bit anemic when describing midlife and late adulthood.

I recently learned that Peck thought so, too.

Robert Peck has expanded the life stage model to describe these tasks for those in midlife and late life:

• valuing wisdom vs. valuing physical power
• mental flexibility vs. mental rigidity
• ego differentiation vs. work role preoccupation
• body transcendence vs. body preoccupation
• ego transcendence vs. ego preoccupation

Clearly, the preferred traits are those listed first in each pair: valuing wisdom, mental flexibility, ego differentiation, body transcendence, and ego transcendence. They allow growth and development.

Dr. Bill Plotkin has done a lot of great work defining life stages. He looks at non-industrialized communities past and present. He also draws on nature as inspiration and takes people into the wilderness of Colorado on retreats.  He is also a professor of psychology.  Here is a post about his stage theories, which include a lot of powerful roles for people in the second half of life. 

Imagine a person who demonstrates the "opportunity for growth" traits:

She would accept changes to her body but still work to be healthy and strong. She would be a life-long student who develops new skills and interests in midlife and beyond.  She adapts, recognizing that she probably cannot hold the same social roles at 80 as she did at 20, but she would accept or even create new roles that employ her strengths. She can also develop new skills to meet her present challenges.   

Some people have a difficult time adjusting to age. I believe this is true for a number of reasons. 

1. We as a society don't live in multi-generational communities, so we don't observe older adults develop. Most media images focus on people 15 years old to 35 years old. (I've noted more media including people up to 45 years old; however, that still leaves many members of today's adult population). 
2. We live in a youth-obsessed culture where physical beauty, physical strength, power and fame are revered.
3. We are still trying to develop religious practices to support new views of spirituality that replace dogmatic, overly authoritative religious traditions that many of us dismissed as young adults. 

As the Baby Boomers move into late adulthood, they will help articulate their path to spiritual enlightenment so that others might follow and not despair when faced with late-life challenges. Members of other generations are doing this, too.

Aging is more complex and contains more opportunities for growth than many people imagine. 

Related:

Spirituality and Older Adults: Ask, Don't Tell
Gender Differences in Midlife / Late Life Spirituality

Mature Adults Embrace Their Wild Minds

Photo by geebee2007.

When talking with people about wellness in late adulthood, many stay focused on the body. However, wellness includes emotional, social and spiritual health as well.

Since turning 50, I have found guidance about wellness from the writings of Bill Plotkin, founder of Colorado's Animas Valley Institute.

His 2007 book Nature and the Human Soul describes 8 stages of development, drawing on Jungian archetypes and primitive cultures.

(A review copy was provided by the author in exchange for a fair and honest review.) 

Plotkin gives more attention to older adults than many stage theorists do. Half of his stages are dedicated to adulthood. He describes two stages for elderhood, showing how late life adults play a key role in supporting healthy societies.