Don’t Be a Boy Scout: Preserving the Independence of Older Adults

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We have a few stereotypes about the relationship between older adults and the younger generations. Witness the worn-out image of the boy scout, aiding a mature woman as she crosses the street. Remember Russell in the Pixar 2009 film Up? He first met the widower Carl by asking him, “Are you in need any assistance?”

Yes, the younger generations should provide support for the oldest adults in our communities. However, they should do so in a way that recognizes existing capabilities and preserves independence. Over time, Russell and Carl develop a mutually benefitting relationship because they help each other and respect each others' strengths.

Most older adults don’t fight evil geniuses in South American jungles, but they do have a variety of skills and abilities. These strengths and their hard-won wisdom allow them to meet their own needs and to contribute to the broader society. What they most often need from others is just patience, an open mind, and maybe a few resources.

Spirituality and Older Adults: Ask, Don’t Tell

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Because older adults often have to manage a number of losses as they age, they have the challenge and opportunity to turn to religion and to spirituality as methods for managing these losses.

Rates of depression among older adults are higher than many other age groups for this reason. At any age, a person would struggle with job loss, death of a spouse, or health troubles. But for the older adult, these types of losses often come in rapid succession, making it more difficult to manage.

However, older adults are not without resources. Some have well maintained support networks through family members and friends. Others have great self-awareness for what types of activities work as mood lifters, such as exercise or participating in hobbies, volunteer work or even paid work if they still have some type of employment. Many also have long-standing relationships with a community of faith and with practices that increase their spirituality.

May-December Romance: Why Is This Joke Funny?

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I was standing in line at the university bookstore, waiting to pay for my textbooks when I saw a card on display that conveyed this joke:

A wealthy man in his 70s brought a beautiful twenty-something blonde to lunch at his country club. His golf buddies were duly impressed and asked him,

“How did you land such a young, gorgeous girlfriend?”

He replied, “She’s not my girlfriend. She’s my wife.”

“Wow! How did you manage that?”

“Easy. I lied to her about my age.”

“So did you tell her that you were 50?”

“No, I told her that I was 90.”

Yes, I did laugh when I read that, but then I started to unpack the source of my laughter. What does this joke say about the assumptions we hold about marriages between older men and younger women?

See Also: Movies about Love and Sex for People 50+

Films About Aging A-F

Released 1971.

Let's go to the movies! This list features films that contain salient images of people in late midlife and beyond. Please fill free to suggest titles or themes in a comment below.

Last updates: Supernova (2020),  The Father (2020)
and Nomadland (2020)

The full list is getting unwieldy with  200 plus films viewed/summarized, so I split the post: A-F here, G-N in a second post and O-Z in third.

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Published April 1, 2019

I encourage you to get a copy of Mario Garrett's 2019 book Coming of Age in Films. He has a cogent, focused argument about the power of stereotypes used in film.

He divides his book into several age-related topics, and he draws on many of the films I list and review--including some of the classic films, indie films, and foreign films. Nevertheless, he also discusses the way major blockbusters depict older adults.

If you are a film buff how is interested in depictions of aging from midlife on, you will enjoy Garrett's book.

My review of Coming of Age in Films

Also, check out the film reviews by Terra Nova Film founder / director Jim Vanden Bosch and KSU professor Rick Scheidt. The scholarly journal, The Gerontologist, publishes their film reviews.

Link to  "About" Movies About Aging and Elderhood

My introduction to Vanden Bosch and Scheidt's reviews. 

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In addition to this long, alphabetical list of all viewed film on aging themes, I have also composed posts that group some films together by themes. You can find these shorter, more focused posts by following these links:

• Movies Depicting Alzheimer's Disease (31 films)
• Movies about Love & Sex for People 50 Plus (26 films)
• Movies Set in Nursing Homes / Retirement Communities (23 films)
• Movies about Midlife / Aging Released in 2014 (22 films)
• Movies about Mature Men Preserving Power (20 films)
• Movies about Aging in French or France (17 films)
• Movies about Older Adults Active in the Dying Process (16 films) 
• Movies about Mature Artists (14 films) 
• Movies about Children and Older Adults (11 films)
• Movies about Aging in Japan (10 films) 
• Movies about Older LGBT People (6 films)

If you want to see what films are on my list of those YET to be viewed, check out this post that lists another 100+ titles.  I hope to add them to the list below at the pace of one a week. 

The List A-F

5 Flights Up (2015). Diane Keaton and Morgan Freeman star as a couple married for 40 years who are contemplating moving out of their walk-up apartment and into a building with an elevator.  They review key scenes from their long-time marriage during the process. 

56 Up (2013). This is the most recent in a series of 8 documentaries about the same set of people from England, filmed every 7 years since they were 7 years old.  In this film, the film subjects talk about their children launching and having grandchildren. There are numerous clips of each person from previous films, showing age-related changes to attitudes, behaviors and appearance. 

About Schmidt (2002).  Jack Nicholson plays Warren Schmidt, who finds at 66 years old that he is unsure of his place in the world. With a comedic tone, this movie asks some serious questions about how people find purpose during late adulthood as Schmidt reviews his life on the eve of his only child's wedding. 

Advanced Style (2014). Photographer and blogger Ari Seth Cohen photographs New York women ages 60 plus who show great style for fashion.  This documentary features a half dozen or these women--their outfits, their biographies and their perspective on life.  Full Review

(#5)  Age of Champions (2011). This documentary follows a handful of mature athletes as they train and compete at the Senior Games.  We meet brothers who swim at 88 and 90, a 100 year old tennis player, a team of women basketball players aged 65 plus, and a pair of men in their late 80s competing against each other in shotput, javelin and discus.